Antecedent: the noun/noun phrase to which an anaphor refers in a coreference; a clause esp. when anaphor is a demonstrative.
Anaphor: instance of an expression referring to another.
in an act of pity your hands
are quietly offered, and are held at arm's
length, because they would be gentle.
Because I am not gentle my voice
is harsh, and my hands likewise. Because
I have nothing for you, and am wrong.
So it is to be wrong. To be at a loss
and unhappy, which is this loss
of one's happiness, in one who had held it.
~ R. Creeley